March 26, 2009

Daddy’s Hands

Filed under: Details — lessie @ 7:37 pm

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Lydia — my neice in the above cute dress — hasn’t blinked an eye this week. Roland — her older brother — has developed a limp. By the time I left Wednesday, his hand “wouldn’t pull,” he said, demonstrating how it hung limply by his side.

Camille, my sister, called Monday night. “Can you come and keep the kids?”

Earlier that day, Camille and a family friend  had supported Ed to the car, then literally carried him, each with a leg and a shoulder, into the ER. (Ed’s over 6 feet and built. A physique perfect for cradling his daughter and son, one in each arm, or serving arrest warrants in the middle of the hot Atlanta night.) The admitting nurse asked Camille if Ed had been drinking. He was talking out of his mind. Aggitated. A bit combative. And so weak he couldn’t hold up his head. 

“I was so grateful when the [admitting] nurse said Ed was sick,” Camille related. “I was sure that if he had the energy to fuss me out for suggesting we go to the hospital — then I must be exaggerating his illness.” And sick he was: Type I diabetes at 47. His sugar was in the 600s. And into ICU he went. He’s still there. Stabilizing.

The last two days, I’ve thought only briefly of this blog — with longing and regret. Wishing I could post. A part of me longed for my camera, sent off to be repaired. Its absence severly limitimg my ability to post new pics of Anderson. Yet, in the midst of my sister’s family crisis, the absense of my camera set me free. I’ve been free from the impluse to record Ro and Lydia’s every facial expression and catch light. Free to live in the moment, in place of trying to document it. Besides, it’s hard to photograph a limp. The most remarkable event, apart from Ed’s recovery, to occur in my nephew’s life in a while.



  1. This is a wonderful image. It almost brings tears to my eyes. Bravo.

    Comment by Virginia — March 27, 2009 @ 1:26 am

  2. Sniff, sniff. Thanks again for coming to help!

    Comment by Camille — March 30, 2009 @ 12:59 am

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